Though staying in good physical shape, grooming yourself and being well dressed are all important, they aren’t the most important. Looks only make up about 25% of your attractiveness as a man, the rest is your own mojo. What, you ask? Your character, your self-image!
Having a strong image, confidence and willpower are attractive traits, but the one thing that trumps them all is feeling good about yourself. There is nothing more truly attractive for a woman than a guy who feels truly good about themselves. A guy like that wouldn’t ever cause a burden and is guaranteed to get them in a good mood.
By having a kind of sturdiness deep within your psyche, you are much easier to adapt to women and the ups and downs of a relationship. Being flexible, feeling good and not taking life too seriously will get you a lot more female attention than you think.
Living For Yourself
People pleasing is one of the most unattractive behaviors for women. Knowing that you are the most important person in your life, even though you help and love others reflects a strong character. Forget how others might be judging you because it would waste your precious time.
Focus on what matters to you the most, things that make you happy, things that you want to accomplish. Also, having a sense of purpose and meaning in your life exudes strength. It turns you into a strong, independent and happy man, which women love.
Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
Someone who knows he has control over his life doesn’t have to take himself too seriously. Also, you don’t have to be perfect to be liked by women or loved by your partner. In reality, your imperfection puts people at ease and makes them feel safe with you. It makes them feel like they can open up and tell you their secrets or show their not so glamorous sides.
Nobody can define you no matter what they say. So don’t give in to any negative criticism that doesn’t have a valid point. If you don’t feel like it’s something you can learn from, just rub it off and take it as a joke.
Do The Right Thing
Your gut feelings don’t lie, but it’s very different from what you think other people think is right. Seeking other people’s approval in exchange for belonging doesn’t help you. With on a busy quest for validation, you’re focusing way too much on yourself, and lose sight of the larger picture. This insecurity can push people away, women especially.
So, be generous to the people in your life and especially with those who have less. Give them honest compliments if they did something right and tell them if they did something wrong. Listen to and support other people, it will bring you more validation than you need.
Choose Happiness Every Time
Happiness is a choice you make either consciously or unconsciously. Even in the face of adversity, you can choose to see it as a challenge and regain your happiness. One of the best ways to achieve this is by listening to and gaining control over your inner critic. The voice that critiques and judges your actions are your own unconscious voice.
Resisting it too much will only make you unhappy and miserable. So, give yourself over to it and see where it takes you. Hear what it has to say, and see if you can learn something or improve your behavior. Once that’s done, you have the right to ignore it, just like you would ignore any other person you already listened to. Get busy with your life and do things that make you happy, such as helping others. This will make you infinitely more attractive.
Treat Yourself Well
Look at yourself like someone you’re responsible for taking good care of. People who treat themselves well are attractive because they show discipline. Being in control of your life and yourself means that nobody will see you as a burden, but a helpful person to have around. So, exercise regularly, eat nutritiously and pay close attention to your emotional health. Make sure that all of your needs are properly met and you’ll have a lot more feminine attention.