We, men, are hunters by nature and enjoy the pursuit of women. Yet it isn’t always an easy game to play. No successful Casa Nova was successful with every girl they walked up to. In fact, even guys who get laid most often have to handle a lot of rejection. After getting rejected way too many times, you inevitably grow unsatisfied with the results you’re getting. You can always visit a brothel, or go with easier women, but where’s the challenge in that? Instead of settling for something else, follow some of these simple guidelines to up your dating game to the next level!
Let Go Of All Your Expectations
Expectations are one of the strongest roots of our suffering. We suffer because of them all the time during our every-day life. It can and will also ruin our dating experience because expectations don’t let us experience things the way they are. You can’t really enjoy the moment with a girl if you’re filled with expectations about what it should be. The same goes for yourself. Don’t expect yourself to be an irresistible magnet for women. Do one thing at a time and build your new ‘relationship’ step by step.
Don’t psyche yourself that you’re going to get laid tonight before you go out. That could easily end up with a serious pitfall because you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment. Just be open and let things, girls and yourself happen the way they have to happen. Don’t set impossible standards for yourself or the girls around you. Be open and seek to have as much fun as possible.
Don’t Apologize For Walking Up To Her
If you’re approaching a girl to start talking to her, don’t start out with an apology. That implies that you’re doing something bad, even though it may seem polite. Just ask her whether she would like to have a drink with you or better yet, say something funny. Sometimes, even cheesy pickup lines can work if you frame them in the right manner.
Also, if you manage to lead her to your bed, don’t apologize if you come too quickly. In fact, don’t apologize unless you’re openly rude or doing something hurtful. You never have to apologize for being yourself the way you are.
It’s Better To Walk Away Then Letting The Interaction Die Out
Meeting someone new and attractive is always exciting, but the conversation can get stagnant. Your goal during first meeting is to further escalate that excitement. You can do that with going deeper and deeper into a conversation or by asking her to join you next week on a date. Maybe even right then and there. But if you happen to find that she doesn’t feel you, then walking away will simply save you time and allow you to move on to the next one.
Also, she might be into you, even if it doesn’t seem like it. By seeing you walk away, she’ll have a feeling of loss that will prompt her to go for it if she really is interested. Finally, even if she says no right off the bat because she’s busy with friends, she’ll reach out to you for a date later. As long as you’re not pushy or desperate, you’ll remain attractive.
Always Work To Improve on Your Weaknesses
If you’re shy, be up for the challenge and do your best to become more confident and conversational. If you feel like you don’t have the confidence, it won’t just come by itself at the right moment. You have to work your way up. Having confidence is just knowing that no matter what happens, you’ll be okay. It’s a process of becoming comfortable facing the risk of rejection and knowing that you always have a stable point to return to.
Also, if talking is more your thing, try to approach girls on the dance floor. It’s much more direct and aggressive and can be really effective. All you have to do is walk up to her and ask her a simple question like:
“Why are you wearing sunglasses indoors”
“Why the silly hat, is it your birthday?”
“How are you feeling so far?”
“What was that fight about?”
Continue with a few comments, but don’t seek to have a long conversation. Instead, ask her to join you on the dance floor. It could lead to a make out, some grinding and maybe even to your bed.
Don’t apologize for being yourself and say whatever comes out of your mouth with confidence. Seek to elevate the interaction as much as you can, bring up every topic you can and seek to find common ground. If it doesn’t seem to work than just move on with confidence. Keep your expectations to zero and do your best with very simple goals.
Remember that the only thing that can go wrong is you beating yourself up over it. So just be sure that you did your very best every time.